Our Activities

I had the fortune to meet up with a group of friends from "OurActivities" Yahoo Group. A bunch of very nice people. We went out for dinner at Fish and Co. at bugis, took a walk around Bugis Village for some dessert and ended up at StarBucks. The guys that turned up were Kelvin, Desmond Chua, Wang Yi and Jave. A friendly bunch of easy going guys with no hassle-tussle attitude. That's what I appreciate in friends. We chatted from the most mundane things like work and studies, to the more personal things like relationships and coming out. I really miss the good old sit-down-at-the-cafe chats with friends. It sure beats going to pubs and clubs and having your ear drums blasted out from the back of your heads and shouting over the top of your voice.

This group have been started about three years ago. I had been introduce to it by another friend, whom must have known that I needed these new friends to help me tide over other more depressing things in life. Something more outstanding about this group was that they organize dinner outings, outdoor activities and adventures, and other fun gatherings in chalets etc, instead for going pubs and sex clubs. I must say, it's just the tip of the ice berg as I'd not met the rest of the group yet. But all in all, it had been an enjoyable evening out.

It made me think back on the days of sgboy club, when I was involved as a club manager organizing activities for them during the 1999 - 2000 period. It was fun. I've helped with things like dinner outings and anniversary bash. But little did I realized then, how important it was for people of like-mindedness to gather together, go out and have fun together. All these activities have many important underlining agenda, which provides support and gives a sense of belonging to many young gay people out there. Something which I'd come to feel today, when I am not the one organizing it. It is difficult in conservative Singapore, to organize big gatherings and outings where a large group of gay people comes together. First we have to remove the stigma that come along with it, ie. the sex fuelled activities, and second to plant a healthier schema to it. If one were to succeed and go beyond these two steps, I would say that the group or club is a successful one.

There are groups and web portals in Singapore similar to this. Fridae, Sgboy, MAW etc and other more private which are by invitation only and not listed openly. All these provide avenues for gay people to make new friends and of course, to find their special someone. They all serve a manifold demand from the Rainbow community. Till now, I don't think anyone of us would have a problem finding a group which to connect and relate to.

Semplice Simon