After the recent concert at Shalom BPC, I finally got to meet up with Kenneth Tan for coffee yesterday. It’s our routine over the years after we ORD. We made it a point to meet up once in a while to catch up on each other’s life. KT’s my fagstag ie. A straight guy friend who knows my sexual preferences. He’s very special to me. We got to know each other in 1996 when he was invited to our church as a guest pianist to play. Everybody said he looks like my twin brother. The height, fairness and haircut. I went up to him after the service to shake his hands :P On purpose? Haha Yes! Told him how well he played. Over the years, I developed this crush on him. But of course, nothing came out from it.
He’s getting married next year. 4th March. That could had been 1 day before my 6th year anniversary with my ex. We would had been celebrating it on the 5th of March. Messaged KT twice last few weeks that I’ve broke up. He never replied me. Disappointed, I was expecting some words of comfort from him, not denying the fact that he never agreed with my lifestyle. He responded the second time saying “I hope you are feeling better.. don’t really know what to say.” Didn’t blame him though. Just happy that he at least bothered.
We met up at Simei StarBucks yesterday. Our favorite place to hang out. We went through the whole feature of his marriage preparation and getting himself ready. Spent most of the time listening to him and asking questions only when he stopped to breath. He was saying how difficult it was for woman to get married. There were simply too many idealistic dreams and expectations on how their once-in-a-lifetime event is going to be. I wanted to find out more too and jokingly commented , I want my wedding to be as good as his!!
He knew his wife Xiao Y for coming to 6 years now, ironically similar to me, but they started seeing you other for 3 years plus. I knew his ex girlfriend too, Amabel, whom had been together for nearly 6 years before breaking up. There must be a curse before you reach your 6th year. Either you get married, or you break up. We met up together with Amabel for dinner at another gay friend’s place years back. She knew and was comfortable about us. Xiao Y on the other hand, still don't know about me. So there was this little discussion of whether to tell her. And the conclusion was not to, if there's no need for it.
Inevitably, our conversation had to steer towards my recent breakup. He asked, “So how is your, erghm.. you know.. !?”.. You see, the thing with KT was that he still couldn’t talk about my relationship without going into a bout of tongue-tied spasms. If I’ve talked about my sexual escapades with him, we’ll need an ambulance.
“You mean my breakup with Ben is it??” I asked nonchalantly. Saw him twitched at my words. I gave him a brief summary of what happened and what’s happening. His comments couldn’t be more predictable.
“You can still try you know!” He said, giving me the hopeful expectant look… “… Go for a girl!”. I nearly fell off my chair. Trying hard to suppress my horrified look. I gaped at him.
“You’re crazy right? THIS, can never ever happen in my life!!”. I was flailing my hands at him in a flamboyant manner, trying to drive my point across to him. He’s been trying to turn me straight for umpteen times.
“Ok then, go find yourself another boyfriend.”
Gosh, are they really that shallow? Or they think gays are as shallow as them? I ought to give him a good rap on the head.
“Well, hmm let me think. Ben’s attached now. So that’s that. The only other guy that I like, he’s attached too. So, the only chance of me seeing anybody else, is as remote as Pluto from Planet Earth. And I intend to keep it that way.”
He got the point.
Semplice Simon
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