Recently, a friend of mine is going through a long distance relationship. It's a brave attempt and I wish him well. It's definitely not easy but I've heard of friends going through LDR for 4 years without even meeting up face to face. Goodness know they were more like pen pals than boyfriends. But hey, give them some credit for not giving up halfway. Like this article which I've picked up somewhere. It's not impossible, but just a bit more challenging and takes an extra effort.
There are pros and cons for not meeting up face to face. Seeing too much of each other can be quite detrimental to the relationship in certain cases. It reduces our own private space and time. This is especially true to those who had spent more than half of their lives strongly independent and surviving only by their self sufficiency. But then, change is good. Would you give up the luxury of private space to accommodate somebody you love? Risk that intrusion of somebody whom you are not sure how sharing your life with him might be like? I hope so.
For myself, I've never gotten tired of seeing somebody "too much" in my life. If it's somebody I love, I don't really mind spending regular time together, even if it means everyday. I mean, that's the whole point of having a relationship right? That is to intertwine our lives together and to see each other face to face regularly. Anyway, back to a LDR, this can only be a temporal platform for the couple to try certain things, ultimately, they must developed a concrete plan to make it conclusive. Can't be having phone sex all the time either.
Some people might get my motive wrong on writing this blog entry on LDR, to clear things up a bit... I'm not that noble. I just feel that this piece of information from the article may come in useful in the future. Read it with a pinch of salt.
Semplice Simon
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