A Nice Little Story

My husband was an engineer. Since I met him, he was always an unflappable rock in my life. I knew he always had his feet firmly planted on the ground, and it seemed that no matter what else went crazy, he would be the one constant.

Three years of romance, and two years of marriage later, I got tired. He was the most unromantic man I know. He never bought me flowers, he never surprised me, and nothing changed in our marriage.

After some time, I finally found the courage to tell him that I wanted to leave him. He just sat there, speechless. My heart froze... what kind of man was I married to that didn't even know what to say to make me stay?

After a while, he spoke, "What can I do to change your mind?".

"I will stay if you can give me a good answer to this question," I replied coldly.

"If I asked for a flower that grew on a cliff, and you knew that getting it for me means certain death, would you get it for me?". His face grew troubled.

"Can I give you an answer tomorrow morning?" he asked. Hearing that kind of answer, my heart died. I knew that I could never be happy with a man who couldn't even give me a answer straight away.

The next morning, when I woke up, he was missing. In the living room, under a warm glass of milk, was a note. My eyes grew misty as I read it...

"Dear, I have my answer. I will never pick the flower for you if it meant certain death. But before you leave, I hope you can give me a chance to give you my reasons....

You will always sit in front of the computer and type about for the whole day, but everytime you will end up in tears cause your formating will always go all over the place... I need my fingers, to do the formating for you, so your tears will become smiles.

You like to travel, but would always get lost... I need my eyes, so that I can bring you to the nicest places on earth.

Everytime you leave the house, you would always forget your keys... I need my legs, so that I can run home to open the door for you.

You never knew how to take care of yourself... I need my hands to help you get rid of the pesky white hair you hate so much when you grow old, to trim your nails, to feed you.

So you see, that's why I can't pick the flower for you. Until I find someone who loves you more than I do, I will need my body to take care of you.

If you accept my reasons, then open the door, where I will be waiting with your favourite muffin."

With tears streaming from my eyes, I opened the door, and there he stood, with a extremely worried look on his face. He still had nothing to say, but just stood there waving the packet he had in his hand in front of me. And then I knew for a fact that I will never find another man who will ever love me as much as he does.

Just because someone doesn't love you the way you want them to doesn't mean that they don't love you with all they have...

Simon wrote :

Very touching story. Reminds me of a friend who told me his bf seldom mentions their commitment verbally and says his “I Love You”’s. Each of us expresses love in the most unique way. No two person’s the same. We cannot expect them to express love the same way we do it. The best bet is to take a closer look at the smaller things that he does. Opening the door for you. Having his hand around your shoulders when you cross the streets. Buying the most useless things for you which he deemed useful. Asking you how’s your day, everyday etc.

If all these smaller things are overlooked, we can be left frustrated and empty. Months and years down the road when everything becomes routine in a relationship, it may seem that love’s running dry. It don’t have to be so if we can still appreciate the more diminished acts of love. Don’t’ miss them out. We can never appreciate someone enough until they are gone, or at least when prospects and threat of their leave become more apparent. I cannot agree more. It is then, when you will realize how accustomed you are to the smallest acts and gestures, little habits and subtle words his presence had already grown on you.

To my friends who are reading this, I hope your relationships may last as long as time persists. Don’t overlook the smaller details in love. Oh oh.. and one more thing.. Christmas’s round the corner, love is in the air !! … better start planning your romantic getaways!

Semplice Simon