Does Length Matters?

More and more of my straight friends are going through shorter courtship before hitting the church wedding bells. It's official. Undersized romancing is the IN thing. Straight couples are together for less than 2 years and getting married earlier. After the nuptial rites, procreating rituals precedes every night and they cannot wait to contribute back to the society. Alas, it only works for heteros. They have many good reasons to stay the marriage commitment. Besides the children, they are legally bonded. Regardless how long they romance each other before matrimony, there's always the Big Brother who will give them a darn good reason to stay fastened after marriage. They will think carefully, twice, thrice before filing for divorce. There's a heavy tangible price to pay.

For us, the fabulous fags, we have nothing to tie us down. So does it really matter how long we know each other before announcing the date of a commitment party? In the end, the only tangible "face" reason is the total humiliation and embarrassment of breaking off once you've told everybody you guys would be together forever. I once heard from a gay friend why he wanted to tell his friends he was attached. He wanted to make it harder for himself to find an excuse to break off later. How lame. That's reality isn't it? The only thing that can stay a gay relationship together, is genuine undying love ( hello in there?!?!?! ) and with no other more substantial reasons.

There are people who keep celebrating their anniversaries. I'm no exception. I chose the yearly ones. But there are those who does it half yearly .. and even monthly. They invite countless peers to share in their bliss. Fiddle their happiness over the rooftop. But then, their relationship had only lasted less than a year. Does this kind of milestone marking spur their relationship to a longer period and greater height? I'm not too sure about it either. But in some deluded sense, it may contribute as a factor to hang on.

So my friends, don't court your guy too long. Don't romance for too long either. If you love him, throw a commitment party soon. No matter when you do it. It can never be, a good enough reason to keep the relationship strong. Do it earlier then.

Semplice Simon