GayLesBoChester United!!!

I always have a problem with a bunch of str8 guys engaging in a fervent conversation of balls and soccer. Especially the recent Asean Big Gulp, I couldn't have been prayinf for peace of ear. Not until I met up 6 lesbians for dinner would I begin to realise, both sides of the coin, is quite the same. :P It was refreshing but yet dejavu-eee, having to see 6 lesbian dykes and femmes talking about their favorite soccer team and favorite matches. One big diff... they are not ooo-gahing over the cute soccer players. Leave that to us fags then.

It was really an eye opener.. . I had wanted to gather a few good friends to have dinner. Been doing this regularly for almost 1 year now. Going out with lesbians is starkingly different. We have had gay outings before where the lesbians would always be outnumbered. And for once, I felt diminished, almost.. smaller.. LOL. At least.. it was just me and my gay friend. Two guys, six gals. I didn't go with much expectations. I knew it would be fun and interesting. I was already familiar with three of them, but slightly apprehensive about the new girls. I knew they would generally be easy to get alone. After the whole thing, my fears were proved unfounded.I had have good impressions of most lesbos that crossed my life. In the gay man's world, there's always the good mix of queens and bitches, gentleman, cutie twinks and the muscular macho marys'. In the lesbian world, the whole two groups being the masculine tomboyish girls.. and the feministic girls. That was how deep it went, my knowledge of them that is..

I met my first lesbian back in 1998/99 where I was with the initial SgBoy team. The whole idea was quite raw, having a gay portal for GLBT people. It was quite ambitious, and I never stay beyond the firist anniversary. There was this girl named Fran, still remember how she look. Femm.. demure and reserved. She was of course, quick to contribute with a little of that no nonsense attitude. Nice gal. Lost track of what's happenin now. Last heard she ended being the Australia correspondent for the website.

If you look at it, we must admit that the whole GLBT thing in Singapore is not fully evolved to state of perfect harmonized union, organized and holding any joint events together. Gay Lesbian Bisexual Transsexual united. Our circle of friends is much isolated to that sexual preference of ours. Perhaps we simple do not find anything common with girls that love girls, and guys that loves both of them. Less talking about the drags and the guys which will prefer dressing up as curvy and full figured woman along changi beach. Let's face it. Our circle just does not mix that well yet. At besides the PLU group that's still trying to register, there seemd not much of any other organized group in singapore.

At least that was what OurActivities was trying to do. To which I realised, having everybody 's a critic, the idea could not take off quite well with members who were so sarcastic and cynical. The new committee who took over were constantly derided for being insincere, unorganized, without a proper vision/mission and objectives. Not too sure who were really the delusional ones, but our GLBT cause could not have been more raw and obvious.

As I sat there basking in their company, I could feel a bit of that expression, the willingness to accomodate and understand the fact that gays and lesbians are not that far apart in difference. We do have common ground even though we both prefer our own sex. Are we that buzy? With time only to the things of our circle? Do we organize parties only for all str8 guys, all gay guys or all lesbians girls? What good can we get out this gradual blending of our groups? For one, I really hope that this common understanding within our GLBT community, may drive us to take on the common cause, of advocating understanding and tolerance, gaining acceptance and acknowledgement from the government, our friends and families.

Semplice Simon